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I'll add more books I read from my publisher as comments.

I'm Fine, by Richard Hall

I didn’t want to read Richard Hall's memoir about how he was sexually abused when he was a teen and eventually put his abuser in prison. My first thought was “get in line” behind every other woman I know who was sexually traumatized by men. Men they knew, men who were older, men who told them they loved her. I didn’t have patience for yet another gay man thinking the story of his life was worth £15, and every other woman’s story was just a sad story, not worth a dime.

But in a moment of social-media fueled loyalty, I had preordered it before I knew much about it, and there it was sitting on the TBR pile. I opened it to the middle and there he was, getting raped. Nope.

Nope. Nope.

But it stayed in the pile, and after about a month I opened it to the beginning. Why? Because it Eye/Lighting published it. They are my publisher, and the books they bring into the world deserve it. I wanted to give it a chance, and I read it all the way through, skipping the awful pages.

I know you might assume the main audience for I’m Fine is gay men, but I wish straight men would read it. Many men don’t understand what women’s lives are like until they have daughters—fact that should anger anyone.

So maybe if straight men read a story about how the men who love men treat each other with both love and abuse, maybe then they could understand the lives of the women they love, and who love them back, despite the everyday common abuse that we have survived.

Other reviewers have said it is worth reading, and I got more out of it besides this aspect of sexual politics. Hall's tone captures the naiveté of a young man and the honesty of an older man looking back. I expect he creates the inner world of a male teen very skillfully, although it is such a different world than I experienced as a young woman. I would recommend it for that alone.

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